For better or worse, your thoughts are your enemy when you're nervous often. You need to make sure that you don't let yourself get taken over by these thoughts. As soon as you wake up or as soon as you're about to engage in the activity that makes you nervous, like public speaking , get busy and stay busy.
Keep your mind distracted and occupied. You'll find that as long as you're engaging in healthy activities, the break you get mentally will reduce your anxiety in the future. You can ask your doctor for a referral to a psychologist or other mental health professional who uses relaxation techniques to help patients.
Not all psychologists or other mental health professionals are knowledgeable about these techniques, though. Training varies by the type of technique that they use. Some people also buy CDs and DVDs on progressive muscle relaxation and allow the audio to guide them through the process.
Anxiety is a condition that can close you off to others. For friends and family of those living with anxiety, When people suffer from anxiety, they often blame themselves. They internalize everything they're feeling and wonder why they are the Anxiety attacks can occur at any time in any place.
They are anticipatory, meaning a person can often feel an Anxiety is a constant struggle. You need to get it under control in order to live an enjoyable life. Shaky voice? The good news is that feeling nervous is completely normal.
To find out more about what it's like when your nerves get out of control, and what you can do to feel in control, listen to this audio story: A Day in the Life: Social Anxiety. Thinking positively about the bigger picture and visualising it, instead of assuming the worst, helps give you courage and perspective.
When you practise something, you strengthen the connections in your brain. The stronger those connections are, the more skilled you become at doing it. Arlington, Va. Accessed April 18, Toastmasters International. Stein MB, et al. Approach to treating social anxiety disorder in adults.
How to keep fear of public speaking at bay. American Psychological Association. Jackson B, et al. Re-thinking anxiety: Using inoculation messages to reduce and reinterpret public speaking fears. PLOS One. Sawchuk CN expert opinion.
Mayo Clinic, Rochester, Minn. April 24, See also Anxiety disorders Supraventricular Tachycardia Cognitive behavioral therapy Specific phobias Sweating and body odor Tachycardia. This will calm you down, make it easier to think normally again and that singular focus can draw you back into this moment rather than past failures or future worries. After you have slowed down and focused on your breathing I have another good habit if you still feel a bit nervous and you are going into some kind of social situation.
This one worked especially well for me when I was single and was dating. And it is also very useful just before any other kind of meeting. This means that just before you met someone you pretend and think to yourself that you are meeting one of your best friends. In this state of mind the conversation tends to flow more naturally too, without much thinking. This is one of the very best and most helpful social habits I have adopted in the past 10 years or so.
You may feel like everyone is watching, judging and thinking about you a whole lot. And so you get nervous, worried or hold yourself back in life. But a sobering realization I have had over the years is that people simply don't care that much about what you do. They have their own plate full with doing the same thing as you: focusing on themselves, on their pets and kids and on their own challenges at this moment in time.
This realization may make you feel a little less important. But it also sets you free a bit more to do what you want to do in life. If you cannot minimize the nervousness in some situations by using the tips above then take a different approach. When the nervousness bubbles up, tell yourself that you are excited about the meeting, presentation etc. This helps you to change perspective on what is happening inside of you and I have found that it helps me to get a boost of enthusiasm and openness for a short while.
And a few minutes into the meeting the excited energy has usually been used in a helpful way and I go back to feeling more relaxed and centered again.
Henrik Edberg is the creator of the Positivity Blog and has written weekly articles here since Click here to learn more… 92 comments… add one Khun Greg Enlightening article Henrik.
We are get nervous from time to time. Social anxiety is a big human fear especially for introverts. Thank you for your wise advice to help us deal with it.
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